repairing things - a little

i asked my mother tonight about whether it was possible to respect my own values and things I want from myself and still respect someone else for not sharing my values.
i asked her how i could do that.
she said it was a good question and that there were many different ways to go through life and that since no one really knows the right way, no one should be afraid to do what they see as their goals and their methods.
she agreed that just because one person, may have had a bad experience with a choice doesn't mean another person will have the same experience.

i appologized to her for resenting her for the choices she made in her life that i saw as affecting me.
and i appologized for the hatred that i've had for those choices.
i told her that i needed to accept that she produces something people value on a social and emotional level and that those values are possibly more important than financial ones, but certainly not less.

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